Are You Manifesting Everything You DON'T Want?

Learn why manifesting happens whether you realize it or not—and how to shift your focus to create the outcomes you want instead of everything you don't.

Jan 13, 2025

Are You Manifesting Everything You Don't Want?

If you don’t know what you want, chances are you’re manifesting everything you don’t want. Here’s the truth: manifesting is happening in your life right now, whether you realize it or not—and whether you believe in it or not. Manifesting isn’t some mystical concept; it’s a universal law of energy, as real as gravity. It’s working in your life every day, shaping both positive and negative outcomes.

So, stop waiting.

Stop waiting for something to happen.
Stop waiting for inspiration or motivation.
Stop waiting for someone to validate or support your ideas.
Stop waiting for help.
Stop waiting for someone to tell you what to do or teach you how to do it.
Stop waiting for answers.

Instead, start.

Start asking yourself the tough questions and listening to your own answers.
Start making something happen.
Start defining what you want.
Start learning what makes you happy and brings you joy.
Start letting your dreams motivate and inspire you by daydreaming about them often.
Start teaching yourself by trying what you’ve learned.
Start doing.

The First Step: Know What You Want

Identifying what you want is the foundation of the manifesting process. It’s the first question I ask my clients and the first one we tackle in my coaching program. So, let me ask you: What do you want?

If you don’t have an answer, don’t worry—you’re not alone. Most people find this question surprisingly difficult, especially if it’s been years since you truly thought about it. For many, especially women, it’s rare to focus on personal wants, desires, and dreams.

But here’s why it matters: if you don’t consciously decide what you want, you’re likely manifesting by default—bringing more of what you don’t want into your life. Whatever you’re focusing on, worrying about, or dwelling on is what will continue showing up in your reality.

Focus Is Critical to Success

Knowing what you want—and consciously choosing to focus on it—is essential. Think of it like using Google Maps: you can’t get directions without knowing your destination. Life works the same way. Without a clear destination and focus, you’ll keep spinning your wheels, going in circles.

If you already know what you want, ask yourself: How bad do I want it?

The more you allow yourself to want it—truly want it—the more unstoppable you’ll be. Success begins with that decision.

Not Sure Where to Begin?

Here are some questions to help you get started:

What have I always wanted to do or try?
What do I love to do?
What brings me joy?
If I could get paid generously for doing something I love, what would it be?

The trick is to harness the power of manifesting to create the outcomes you want—instead of the ones you don’t.

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Have you tried manifesting before? What has your experience been? I’d love to know your thoughts.

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